My live in boyfriend of 2.5 years left a letter on the table and left. He came crying back a week later and admitted to having commitment issues as well as feeling that he 'shut down' when he was a child a his parents divorced. He cried in my arms for hours and told me he wanted to get counseling. He said he didn't deserve me and that he was too stupid to know what was good for him until it was too late. I promised to support him and go to counseling with him if he wanted me to - that I was willing to work through the issues with him but that it wasn't smart for him to move right back in - he agreed and said he was lucky to have me. Things were fine that week - saw him a few times, texting abck and forth, telling me he loved me. The following weekend, he came over Friday night to spend the night and was acting strangely. i asked what was wrong and he said his emotions were all over the place - I got mad. My emotions were also all over the place and I was taking a huge leap of faith letting him back in. He satyed the night and ended up walking out again the next morning. We have had little contact since then - he said he didn't want to mess with my head until he figured out what he wanted - and some of the contact has been fairly hostile. He is not talking to mutual friends about what is going on; howver, I know he has seen a counselor twice. I have no idea how we ended up here but I am a mess. I cry everyday and can barely get through my day. he said he didn't want to shut me out, but I feel he has. I have stopped tyring to contact him - I feel that if I keep trying to contact him he will view it as pressure. I love him, but, I am extremely hurt and feel like a puppet.
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This same thing happened to me and my boyfriend.
I've come to learn that he is emotionally unstable, and he needs to figure out what's going on, but without my help.
Please, for your own good, leave him alone. Constant reminder of him will only make you feel worse about it.
Distance yourself, it will make things a thousand times easier without him lingering on your mind, and know that it's not YOUR fault, it has nothing to do with you at all - he obviously still cares for you, he tried to come back to you - but he needs to become mentally stable, and be in control of his feelings before he can be in a relationship with you.
Volunteer, take an art class, take up yoga, do anything but think about him in your free time. He will only hurt you more if you try to contact him again.
Time heals all wounds, this one is just going to take a little longer than you expected :)
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