Let me give you a brief snapshot of our situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. He has two boys ages 4 and 8. His ex-wife just gave up custody of the boys so we have them full time. My boyfriend is a wonderful, man, father, son and friend. He would do anything for you, however, I can past my anger I have towards his ex and even him. I feel as though there mistake is now my responsility. I know, I know, yes he has two beautiful chilidren, and don't get me wrong I love them, but I feel like I'm sacrafying me having chidlren because he already has some. When she left, he was just so excited for her to gone, that he didn't even care if she paid child support. But when I go grocery shopping I'm buying food for the kids, which comes out of my pocket. When he had to sell the house during the divorce, we moved into my condo that I own. Yes he helps with the bills, but again, I had to adjuestment my lifestyle, no more extra bedroom, that's the kids rooms. And with Mother's Day coming, what do I get? Well he did send me flowers because I think he learned from the prior yr. how upset I was when his ex was to hung over to get the boys for Mother's Day and we had them with us. But since I'm not a mother, I got nothing. Of course yesterday the boys are drawing cards to wish there mother a happy mother's day. I'm so I don't me to go on an on, the purpose of my rant, was to figure out how to get past it. I have trouble with people who don't have good morals and values. Normally, what I do is not associate myself with them. However, I don't have the luxury of doing that in this situation. I feel like my life has been cheaped by someone I didn't even know, if that makes sense. My boyfriend and I were suppose to have our own family, house, marriage, life together and I feel like is one mistake has now become my mistake. I have been so careful in my life to make the best decisions, that I just get angry every time I think about it. My girlfriend told me to see a shriek, which I think I will do but I thought others have to feel the same way I do and I would love to know if you had any advice to get past it. I'm angry with a person who could care less about not having her kids and I'm also angry but in love with a man that is the best person I have met, I did not deserve for this to happen to him. How do I get past it?
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Wow, that is a tough situation, however, I think it all comes down to the way you think about it in your own mind.
On the one hand, you have a lot of feelings that are quite justified. You have every right to feel the way you do. Things didn't work out the way you envisioned.
I think everything happens for a reason. Perhaps fate put you in this situation to help your guy and his kids. I would like to suggest that you put the negative thoughts away for a while and think positive. You should commend yourself for being a better person than others by being there in these three guy's lives.
They need a good woman in their life and fate has dealt that responsibility to you, whether you like it or not. Now you can show the world what a great heroine you are.
This is where you can rise above the fray and show the world that you are one of the special people.
And in case no one else says it ...
Happy Mother's Day!
You deserve though wishes and everyone here knows it. Posted 6 days ago
