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She went nuts. She started calling all the time. She started calling all day and night. She would email the entire time and text message. We started finding note on out cars. She would pass the apartment through out the day. I would see her do it when I was outside. She would have her friends pass along messages. She would blackmail us.
See at the time my husband was on probation in another state. His probation officer said he could go to that state but not get caught because he was not supposed to be in that state. She used this to her advantage. She threatened us with this information all the time if we did not do what she said. We could not call the police for this reason either. She was crazy!
We changed all our emails, phone numbers, and even moved. My husband had to leave his old friends behind because they were her friends too. We had to change our phone number 3 times.
The last time she tried to take us to court saying we were stalking her because she heard that we were planning to get married and we were. She did this because I am in the military and have a clearance so this was a way of getting back at me. This was about a year after I and my husband were together. We got all the proof together. We even got letters together of witnesses including her former boss and some of her friends. I had emails she sent to my work and I had my work authenticate them. She also harassed me on the internet so I brought all the proof of her harassing me online.
The judge through her case out and told both of us to stay away from each other which is just fine with me. She still cyber-stalks me and leaves messages for me online but I have put thins thing to rest. We are completely out of the state and in another state and doing great. She can look at what ever she wants to look online as far as I am concern because I have nothing to hide;-) I am happy and everything worked out.
Last I hear of her she was married and happy;-)
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- It sucks to have to deal with that, but it seems you are handling it well
- Thanks! My recommendation for anyone dealing with this situation is to save everything! Save emails, notes, voice messages, text messages, and anything on the internet. Have witnesses write letters and keep a journal. Make sure you not each incident in the journal with the time and date. Give good detail in it. Mke police reports and save them. Record each time you have to change a number or email and explain why.
If anything ever does happen int the future this stuff will com in handy! SAVE IT ALL! - The funny part is that this sounds like my wife's former boyfriend's ex-wife. She tried to run them over in his front yard one day.
The freaking stupid part is that you have a clearance and were screwing around with a man on probation. And was he married? Leaving aside the UCMJ Article 134 violation (adultery) you put yourself in a position for blackmail that could have severely compromised the trust placed in you to guard our nation's secrets. You should be ashamed of yourself. - No! He was not married! Oh and my command knew about my situation. He was on probation for trying to help his brother who did something stupid. He made a bad choice in making a bad situation worse but his probation officer said that he was doing what he was supposed to and he got off probation early for model behavior. My command knew the situation and I did not hide anything from them. So what you are saying is that when someone does something dumb when they are young, gets in trouble, takes responsibility, then makes his life better and learns from his mistakes he should not get a second chance or should not be allowed to date him or marry him! I don't tell him anything about my job! He just so happens to be in college now. He has gotten his record expunged! He is a great dad!
I think before you make a judgment call like that you should know the offense and situation. His father who is a retired SgtMaj in the army who is a contractor now and also has a clearance would also disagree with you but thanks for your comment anyway!
- My husband and I are dealing with an x that is more evil than Satan himself. We have custody of children. She takes us to court all the time, every contempt charge has been denied. She claims to be this holier than thou Christian. She doesn't care who she involves, the children mostly, in her vengeance against my husband and I.
Here is my current problem, the x posts on public blogs that I am a drug addict, alcoholic and have infectious diseases. The child comes back from visitation saying we are going to hell, telling the child I'm trying to kill them and so on and so on.
One of her attempts to put my husband in jail was to claim that the child was raped by my husband. She had the child vaginal anal examined TWICE. The second time was after the case was DISMISSED as a false report.
She is a compulsive liar. The only statement that is true is that she has an "x-husband". These blogs are so hurtful.
- 'm dealing with a deranged xwife, she wont go away, my husband son got high on '' wet'' he lost control of his mind, so the xwife starting calling us day and nite crying, so we all decides to get help, she put the son in a mental hosp.for testing,the son turned against the mom call her the devil all kinds of crazy things, the son is 24yrs. with a wife and 2yr old child, he refuse to see the mom or talk to her, why is she still calling my husband crying all day, also the son wont talk to the dad either. so why do the mom keep calling my husband, can't she call her son wife.
- To the lady that said her husband is worse the satan.. OMG sounds like my husbands ex.. we have been through hell and back.. well maybe hell would be better.. I never dreamed this crap went on.. we are educated ppl and she is to.. She had a affair and wanted a divorce.. and wanted her own life. all was good until he married me.. well i should say dateing.. as soon as he brought me with him to pick up the kids she went nuts the next few weeks.. i tried to be nice to her and thought it would be a great realationship because we were not the cause of eabh others divorce. my husband had died and they had ben divorced or two years and she was married with a new baby.. so i thought this would be good> little did i know it turned in to hell.. it was everything from custody to money.. my husband paid 1,878 a month for two kids and never missed a payment.. she never wrk at tried to live off that and made the kids think we were sooo rich and made them live in hell.. so i feel your pain.. she even did what your did tried to say that my father in law sexulity touched the little girl.. all of it was tossed out the judge did not buy it it was our best victory.. but 20 sum thousand dollars later in legal fee's and tons more .. the hell never ends and she even lives 3 hours away.. not far enough.. my question is why would a person do this when they wanted out of the marriage so why not move on.. the worst part of all this is that my husband only wanted to see his kids thats it.. now they botha re in college and need help and she has screwed up.. we have the money and a lif estlye that can help them .. but she ruin it for them she is DEVIL him self.. the kids suffer... oh i should write a book.. thaks for this site .. i feel so much better knowing other ppl deal with this and i am not alone.. it is a slint pain.. it os hard to tell ppl ..
- All I want to say is - I HATE my husband's ex wife. She is a pathological liar. She undermines everything positive that we do for the children. As far as I am concerned, she is a pathetic excuse for an egg donor. My husband almost ran right before the wedding and except for his two beautiful children, he wishes he had. What a load of crap. She is a user and an abuser and I HATE her.
- I don't understand the x factor! Why do they attempt to make their exe's and their new significant others so miserable. You think they would get the idea it is over when the other person moves on. Instead they hold on for dear life and dig their heels in. This only makes their ex hate them.
I have since been lucky since I posted this. My husband's ex girlfriend has moved to Alaska and we are now in NC. She still stalks me online form time to time but I have been able to manage it more by using aliases she doesn't know for my online posts. I make my stuff private. This has helped.
I feel for all you guys. I know things are ten times worse for some of you because kids are involved so this makes the ex a permanent fixture. Lucky for us no kids were involved.
Hold your ground guys. I believe in karma and one day people like this will get what they have coming around. I firmly believe this. - I have to say I agree with everyone here who as said that the exs are as evil as satan himself. Although she claims to be the perfect Christian by blaming my husband for all the problems they had when all my husband did was provided for her and my stepdaughters while she stayed home. My husband's ex cheated on him with a guy that she is now married to her. She insists on my making my step daughters call him daddy which they don't feel comfortable with at all. My husband loves his daughters will all his heart and would do just about everything for them. She got what she wanted so why does she insist on making her rude comments to the girls about their father? And no matter how much she wants the girls to call her current husband "daddy" all she is doing is pushing them away from her, which we are seeing now more than ever. If she ever reads this posting which I hope she does, GET A LIFE PSYCHO!!!
- Why would an ex wife find it necessary to make us miserable?She is the one who left my current husband for her geriatric boss because she saw $ signs. She didn't want anything to do with my husband or their kids until she found out that we were married and building a new home. Now she has signed both of the kids up for every sport and activity available in our area. She has even decided to coach soccer when she has no clue about the sport. She has the nerve to frequently ask my husband to take her back. What is up with that.
- My husband's ex is such a bitch, and he acts like he is scared to death to say anything to her, and I am sick and tired of it! After what she has put me through all a long, and recently when he had major surgery and I almost lost him, she was a bitch about it when I called to tell his daughters what was going on...and he still hasn't called her and told her off! UGH! Pissed off!
- My husbands ex never raised her two boys. Too busy screwing around on people and then building her "its all about me" life. Seriously, worst mom ever!! Now she hates me with a vengance. Always telling her kids she is going to kick my ass, you know things that make you think" wow she is well educated and isnt trash at all." She has gotten her two sons so alienated from my husband and myself and spent endless hours digging up all the dirt she could on me. I can not even begin to tell you what I have been thru with the younger adolescent-holocaustic proportions. When I finally said I have had it -get off your ass and help she got my husbands last girlfriend to take over my job and do all the mothering work for her. She is facebook friends with everyone of his exs since grade school and is on a constant hate campaighn against me. She talks about how much she loves her sons and would do anything for them but has only bought them sneakers and cell phones for the majority of their life. My mom says she is trash and you can't fix that-life long problem, no cure. The best thing you can do is nothing. The best revenge is to live well. Its hard because she hurts those boys by jipping them out of a relationship with their dad but I hope sooner or later they will figure it out.
- My soon-to-be husband's ex wife is so annoying. She uses his kids against him because his kids live 3 hours away from us so we only get to see them once in a while because of money and the fact that his kids are in sports. His daughter is almost 19 so she has her own life, but his son is 13 and we really love it when he is here...EXCEPT that his ex wife feels the need to ask my fiancee how their son is doing. Now, their son is 13 and has his own cell phone. Why wouldn't she just as his son first hand how he is doing...WHY DOES SHE NEED TO ASK MY FIANCEE!!! It drives me nuts that she feels the need to talk to him about dumb stuff JUST TO TALK TO HIM!!!! Now, knowing we are getting married she still doesn't move on with her life. She is holding on to something that doesn't want her anymore and she doesn't see that it makes her look DESPERATE AND IMMATURE that she is doing this. She is 40 years old and just refuses to accept the fact that he and I are happy and want to share our lives together. She says inappropriate things to him like they will be together again someday and I am just a fling...well, I hate to break it to her, but this fling is going to last a lifetime. I just have a hard time not letting it get to me that she is constantly talking to my fiancee about things she could talk to her son about. Their son has even told her that she is annoying everyone when she does this and she doesn't care. Any advice???
- I am sick to the gills of my husbands ex-wife. She has gone so far as to come up with a modification of child custody that all but states he cant be married to anyone...ESPECIALLY me, if he wants to stay out of jail. She has stated that the only way he can have any visitaion AFTER he leaves me is to move to Arizona where she now lives. (We currently reside in Tennessee). This sort of crap should NOT be legal!
- I am going through a divorce....all cause of the ex-wife...don't get married...wait till the kids of are age on their own...my husband's ex wife is the spawn of the devil himself....she lies, slanders, alienated the kids, had them lying in court, and walks around telling people, that the kids father is a dead beat...while she gets more then she should and goes on vacation, never buys the kids clothes, and she ownes three coach bags...she is remarried and still acts like she is married to my husband...but my husband just shells out the money ...my money too....for court, attorneys and nothing happens to her...she cries and says she misunderstood, and the kids cry and lie for her so she just gets a warn, and my husband loves his kids so he just puts up with it...She attack me her an her husband...and it was through out on a domestic issue and the best interest of the children was to not proscute the mother...and their step-father...I am done...after 7 years of hell....I am done ..they can stay in their crap...
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