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My psycho ex putting me on shakey ground w/girlfriend
I have a psycho ex-wife that is obsessed with torturing me and using the kids as her meal ticket. She is constantly taking me back to court looking for more money. (She doesn't work and never intends to, btw.)As if that isn't bad enough, this situation is putting my current relationship in jeopardy. I am lucky enough to have found a great woman that is sexy, smart, fun and successful. She is lucky enough to have a good, normal relationship with her ex, and I get along with him too.
Constantly having to go back to court and battle my lazy, money hungry ex stresses out my girlfriend. She has trouble dealing with it and is hinting that she will not stay with me if this doesn't stop.
She is a great girlfriend and tries to be supportive, but she has been in a bad situation before. A former boyfriend's ex was so crazy that she went after her, had her electricity shut off by posing as her, threatened her family, etc. Mine isn't that bad, but she seems to have the potential to get there.
I don't blame my gf for not wanting to be in that type of situation again, but it really sucks that my ex is now screwing up the good relationship that I have.
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- There are some things you should talk with your girlfriend about and there are some things that you should not.
This is one of the things that you should not.
Posted 2 weeks ago - You need to consult an attorney about your ex-wife using the dragging-you-back-into-court-for-every-little-freakin'-thing as HARASSMENT.
You need to draw clear boundaries with the ex and stick to them immovably. You need to make up your mind that you will no longer allow your ex to manipulate your guilt re: your kids or anything else, and you can file a court motion for YOURSELF insisting that your ex's continual litigious actions are putting you in a hardship position and are harassment, pure and simple.
I disagree with the previous poster who said you just should not discuss this with your current girlfriend. I think you SHOULD, but you don't have to tell her EVERYthing, kwim? Just give her enough information to let her know you're handling it, but you might want to spare her every detail.
Good luck...husband and I dealt with this for a few years with his ex....
Posted 1 week ago - Hey, check out www.thepsychoexwife.com
You may get lots of good tips there from a veteran who's BTDT...
Posted 1 week ago - Whoever suggested about getting an attorney and going to court is a good idea.
But when you do, agree to a set amount of child support, a visitation schedule, and follow it to the letter, don't deviate from the plan. If you can't make a visitation, don't ask to swap any days you just miss it. If she doesn't let you have the kids document that you didn't get the kids and why. If you miss visiation document it and why, but when you do explain it to the kids then tell the ex-spouse. Any time you have a phone call document it. Save all written correspondence, if it is e-mail print it out along with any responses you wrote. The more proof and documentation you have the better off you are.
And finally and most important, put in a stimpulation that there will be no going back to court to adjust the child support for x years (usually it is 2-3 years). That way you get a reprieve.
But I can't stress enough to document any conversation or communication that you have. The best thing to do is to communicate through written e-mails that way you have proof in her own writting.
My current husband did that to his ex-wife. He quit answering her phone calls. She would leave nasty e-mails on our voicemail that we would play back into the computer microphone and record them and burn them to a CD to give to the judge. But my husband did that to force her into communicating via e-mail and we were able to get her busted on a lot of things. So the judge wasnt to sympathic to her.
Good luck.
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